Today, may you know yourself as Beloved. May you follow the thread of soul-deep longing that takes you more deeply into Life and Love. ~ Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Knowing Yourself as Beloved
A Fall Meditation Mini-Retreat w/Cedric Cobb
Saturday, November 17, 2018, 2:00 pm – 4:30 pm
at La Maison Trestler, 85 Chemin de la Commune, Vaudreuil-Dorion, QC Directions
About Our Retreat
This is a meditation mini-retreat held in silence. It is suitable for both beginning and experienced meditators. Our theme was inspired by the poet and writer Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
Through prose, poetry, and a variety of awareness techniques (sitting, walking, and guided meditation) we will practice knowing ourselves as Beloved, and living from that reality.
Arrival time begins at 1:45 pm, and we start promptly at 2:00 pm. The afternoon ends with fellowship and refreshments catered by our own Marlene Hale, Chef Maluh!
What to Bring
Dress casually, and bring a water bottle if you like. We sit on comfortable chairs for meditating, but feel free to bring your own meditation bench.
Registration is $25. Please pay by cheque or cash when you sign-in on retreat day. Bursaries are available. To reserve your place, email Cedric in advance at: email@example.com. Registration deadline is November 10th.
Jerry Braza on Daily Mindfulness Practice
The only measure of success is this moment, right now. Are we here? If we are here, our practice is perfect. ~ David Cooper
In the same way that you cannot plan to become fit by joining a health club and then only attending occasionally, you cannot truly follow being mindful without a plan or program.
Mindfulness requires you to exercise the same motivation, discipline, and daily awareness consistently, until it becomes a moment-by-moment practice. The following suggestions can enhance the practice of mindfulness in your daily life:
- Set aside some quiet time daily to practice mindful breathing.
Create a comfortable space for yourself free of distractions, a “sacred space” just for you. Begin with ten minutes or so of the basic mindfulness practice with the focus on your breath. If time and space permit, mini-sessions throughout the day may be helpful.
- Find time each day to just be.
As adults, so much of our identity centers around our doing. The “shoulds” and “oughts” of life often become our guiding force. Consequently, so many adults feel guilty when they are not working, and they will often create additional work for themselves to avoid these guilt feelings.
Finding time to do nothing each day is one way to bring balance back into a life filled with doing. Do you have a healthy balance between being and doing? Create a “lazy day” or half-day or a “lazy hour” during which you spend time just being, with no prearranged agenda.
If you want to read, read. If you want to sleep, sleep. If you have young children who need tending, arrange with your partner or a friend to be responsible for the children for that time. You can also teach your children to learn to just be by sharing this experience with them.
- Try to complete personal or professional tasks each day or bracket a certain amount of time for a task such as gardening or grocery shopping so you can be sure it gets done and still have time for you.
Apply this same technique to projects at work. For example, my work often involves writing and organizational business planning.
If I set aside thirty minutes to write, I will set a timer and write for that time period. As I am interrupted by thoughts, feelings, and such, I note the distraction, breathe, and return to the task at hand.
- Use mindfulness to enhance relationships.
Identify several individuals who are most significant in your life and let them be reminders to be mindful.
When you find your mind wandering in conversation, continue to bring your attention back to the person. Remember, the best gift that you give to each person is yourself.
- Create an environment at home and work that offers opportunities and reminders to be mindful.
At home and in the workplace, you can also find reminders to stop, pause, and breathe.A beeper sounds, a phone rings, the buzzer on the microwave goes off, the elevator signals as it opens; all can be used as reminders to take a moment to breathe and then return to the present moment.
A bell placed on your desk or the kitchen counter and set to ring randomly provides a reminder to stop, pause, renew. Drive out of your garage, pause, and breathe as you watch the garage door slowly close.
- Recall the quote, “At any moment, whatever we are experiencing, only one of two things is ever happening: either we are being with what is, or else we are resisting what is.”
Think about the kind of things in your life you are resisting right now. Recognize that more psychological energy is used in resisting than in actually doing.
I have come to realize that I found many past jobs to be difficult because of the resistance I had to being there.
Had I realized then that by letting go of that resistance, in other words, if I had stopped looking at my watch and mentally complaining, the job could have been a much more fulfilling experience for me. How much psychological energy I have wasted by not wanting to be there!
- Develop social support for the practice of mindfulness.
Practicing mindfulness becomes easier in an office or home when other people are mindful...
For example, when I see my wife eating mindfully, I am reminded to focus on the process of eating. In the workplace, when several people begin to exhibit mindful behaviors in their work and interactions, other colleagues are unconsciously and positively affected.
The ultimate goal of daily practice is to create simple reminders that each moment is an opportunity for practicing mindfulness.
Moment by Moment: The Art and Practice of Mindfulness by Jerry Braza